Do you find yourself saying “yes” when every part of you wants to say “no”? You’re not alone. Setting boundaries is hard, especially during a separation.
At Clean Break, many of our clients come to us emotionally and physically drained – not just from the stress of separation or divorce, but from years spent putting other people’s comfort and expectations ahead of their own wellbeing. For many, setting boundaries is a foreign concept. It can feel uncomfortable, even unsafe, especially if you’ve been conditioned to believe that love means sacrifice.
But boundaries matter- especially when your relationship is ending and important decisions about relationship property, finances, and the future are on the table.
In her latest article featured in the June 2025 edition of Nelson Magazine, Clean Break’s founder and relationship property lawyer Sarah Moon explores the quiet power of “no,” the emotional toll of chronic people-pleasing, and why learning to advocate for your own needs is essential – not selfish.
Through heartfelt reflections and real client stories, Sarah offers this powerful reminder: 
- You can be kind and still say no.
- You can be loving and still ask for what you deserve.
- You can stand your ground and still be deeply connected to others.
In fact, sometimes the most loving thing you can do is protect yourself.
This article is for anyone who has ever put themselves last or felt guilty for speaking up – especially in moments that matter most, like dividing when property or making parenting decisions. It’s a call to notice when you’re sidelining your needs and to start honouring them instead.
🔗 Read the full article in Nelson Magazine – June 2025
“Sarah’s grounded, warm, and compassionate guidance made the entire process seamless. Her communication is clear and thoughtful, and her attention to detail ensures everything is easy to understand. I appreciated that, even when she didn’t fully agree with my stance, she respected my choices. After making sure I understood the legalities, she reflected my wishes in the agreement. Her website is user-friendly, and booking appointments is incredibly simple. I highly recommend Sarah to guide you through this challenging situation. Thank you Sarah.🌺 “- Claire
To learn more about Sarah and how the Clean Break team can support you through your separation, visit cleanbreak.co.nz/about.
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